Attached or Detached?

- Just a click away, if asked, is my major takeaway from this pandemic. 

We have outlived eons and epochs subsiding in a social web with delicate figments of attachment and detachment. Two fundamentals of human life, yet poles apart. Where we need attachments to blossom, detachments need to wither out to maintain an equilibrium in this complexly variegated and achromatic human life.

Well, not only me, I muse, isn't this one of yours too? The highlight of the pandemic- “Keeping connected through COVID-19”. Having realized the struggle from being a social bee to being a soul set free. But, the art lies not in being detached, rather in being attached and rooted to the souls who understand you, not only when you barter your thoughts but even when you are muted. Because with them, you don’t seek clarification rather expressions follow words. It is like a silent bridge forms between you and them, they lift you when you are down, cheer your blues away, and ensure that you stir happiness and bonds in a sway. 

We are not ordinary humans, rather super-humans;

With discrete knowledge of our needs and wants,

We can suffice to all the taunts.

To attach, detach, or whether to patch,

Ensuring no relation gets even a weeny scratch.

We enter in a pact or you may call a tact,

On how to constructively connect. 

"Connections", such a beautiful word is one of the human dependency. We, as social creatures crave socialization. Our individuality is not defined as a being, rather a puzzle piece would have a nice ring to it. We all are the pieces of a gigantic puzzle called Harmony, affixed together by Love. And, if we lose even a single piece, the entire puzzle gets dismantled. How complex yet beautifully intertwined is this relation, isn't it?  There’s a mystery in getting attached, obscurity is getting detached. Just as petroleum is to the vehicles, interaction is to the worldly folks. Life goes on, it never ceases and so does loneliness. But, does it entitle us to stagnantly hibernate? Well, permitting it is letting the alga proliferate in psychological problems- Cognitive Decline, Depression, Detachment, Self-Neglect, and Estrangement to cite a few. If prolonged and neglected for a long time, it may also be apt to call humans "walking junkyards". But would that justify us? Our unique effervescence?  Humans are myriad creatures, a walking house to stories ringing in melodious jingles and not junkyards! Right? It is aptly quoted, 'Where there is a will, there is a way.' If someone wishes to overcome loneliness, firstly they must be open to modifications in the way they lead their life earlier. They must also get rid of pangs of social cravings and that can be outrightly done by devising a constructive way throughout the entirety of its course. By pretending to be a Metal and possessing its qualities. One must be Malleable, to easily learn how to adapt and modify themselves according to the altering and varying circumstances. Following it is the art of Ductility, permitting you to alter your shape and form according to dynamically demanding circumstances. Be a human of substance, of heat and sheer tolerance, so that however profusely the extrinsic factors heat you, your melting point remains un-paralleled and you don't brittle up. Draw lines towards connections and relationships, not towards loneliness! Loneliness is like a termite, it eats up and hollows an individual from within. It is hallmarked by an intense desire to bring the longingness into reality and when we fail to do so, 'loneliness' is the outcome. In a world of unparalleled connections sprouting up now and then, why be lonely? Remember, you don’t deserve loneliness, rather loveliness. You were not born with a lonely heart, then why live with one? Always aim at integrating rather than disintegrating. That's clandestine to eternal attachments, detaching factors leading to detachment. Now you choose, what's worth then- staying aloof, and becoming prey to self-harm or mingling with others, forming bonds, and possessing a variegated personal charm? The choice is all yours.

Self retrospecting onto the dividends attached to self-harm while perks associated with personal charm will make you street smart. As you will not only quantitatively but also qualitatively evaluate the consequences of each act, acts of charm, and acts of harm simultaneously. You will thereby witness how attachments take years to attribute, while detachments just some micro-seconds to sprout. How attachments can strengthen trust, while detachments may shatter years of trust.

In a world where screens and social media have bewitched a magic spell on folklore. They have also altered our paradigm of connections and the drastic human sustainability they hive today. It all sets me to amazement! The notions of attachment and detachment which were once two independent clauses, now depend upon the E-world. How ferociously has the present E-world revamped the once E-world! Though both revolve around forming bonds. But, isn’t this an irony that the E-world (Electronic world), we reside in today revolutes around chemical signals to have a pure talk while the E-world back then (the Expressionistic world) craved for off-screen and real-time interactions. After all, a human is a human and a robot is a bot, it can never substitute the presence of a human for another human. It leaves me jaw-dropped as to the extent we human beings, as social creatures sustain ourselves devoid of sensual interactions. How can we forget the prime importance of our body in this cat and dog race? The crucial Penta-sensual experiences are fundamental to forming connections and interactions, Taste, Touch, Smell, Sight, and Hear; have patience and to all their consequences wistfully bear.

Maybe that's how one can overcome loneliness, get rid of negativity, eradicate thoughts of failure and self-harm. Just by simply interacting, and attaching. You might be baffled on how do we do that? Well, it is as effortless as stretching your arm first! Stretch out your arm towards optimism, friendship, acceptance, and understanding. And, witness the world stretch a wide grin back at you for your little acts of kindness and seeking to confect crystal-clear connections. "Because interactions- virtual or real; are that wireless network, that will outshine all the bandwidths." Does this remind you to re-connect or even connect with someone? If yes, go ahead! 

Dear You,

The turmoil your heart beholds. The higgledy-piggledy state you are undergoing is catalyzed by uncertain units of belief and relations. You know it all, deep down you carry them within your heart, buried in an eerie corner. But still, you cannot muster up the courage to come forward and attach with the people for whom you are always tirelessly trying to root out. What's holding you back, then? Let it go free, free in the horizon high.

Hang in there. A stranger feels you.